Top Three Tips for Making Your Resolutions Actually Stick
Here we are, comfortably into 2020. If you’re like a lot of people, you may have set some New Year’s Resolutions for yourself this year. How are they going? (If you’re anything like me historically, they’re long-gone by now.) We start with the best intentions to get healthier, exercise more, save money, spend more time with the kids, or be more successful at work. How do we make sure we don’t fail by February?
I have a few ideas, and I want to share them with you. As a life coach and strategic planner, I spend a lot of time dreaming big. You know the thing they don’t tell you about dreaming big? It’s that you actually have to put in the work to make those dreams come true. You need to have 3 things for this journey.
Read on for my Top Three Tips for Making Your Resolutions Actually Stick.
1. Clarity – know what you want and keep in top of mind
You wouldn’t leave for a big trip without setting up transportation and packing a bag ahead of time, so what makes us think we can march into resolutions without any prep work? (I want you to go ahead right now and shake off any feelings of “I should have done this sooner” because you’re doing it now, and this is your timeline. Resolutions are goals and you can make them at any time, so you’re good!)
You need a clear idea of where we are going and the necessary tools for enjoying the destination. If you’re going to the beach, don’t worry about packing skis. Figure out what your goals actually are, and then determine your steps to get there. (If you want to do this goal-setting in real time, join us Thursday, January 16 at 6:00pm – bit.ly/jan16ymm as I lead an intro to Rock Your Resolutions)
Clarity Super Bonus: Once your goal is set, you can follow a suggestion made by entrepreneur, business coach, and NY-Times Best Selling author Marie Forleo in her January 6th podcast on resolutions. She suggests writing down your biggest goal every day. (She writes hers down up to 15 times a day!) When you have that clear concise sentence to write down, you are able to hyper-focus and keep your actions in alignment.
2. Integrate – decide when and where you’ll work on your goals (and what you’ll do if something gets in the way)
As I said earlier, goals require actually doing the work. What’s the best way to make sure something happens? Schedule it. I think of this as integrating your goal with your real life (and allows you to make contingency plans if something comes up!)
I’m an organization nerd, so naturally I have a color-coded schedule and master task list divided by categories. Every Monday morning (sometimes Sunday night) I work my way through the list and identify priorities for the week (my goals) then I assign when I will do them into scheduled blocks. (This also helps me plan ahead
Chances are you know your schedule for the most part and you have these blocks of time. (Maybe in the morning before work, once the kids go to bed, Saturday morning, Sunday evening). Identify them, then look at your goal, and actually assign when you will complete these steps toward your dreams.
Integration Super Bonus: Identify when you’re going to work on your goals and then spruce it up! I work from home most of the time, so I create an experience for working on my goals. I light a certain candle that I associate with positivity and productivity. I listen to lo-fi hip hop. I don’t do either of these outside of productive times from home.
3. Surround yourself with support
You likely know the common proverb: If you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go far, go together. This is really my approach to goal-setting and just human happiness in general. Life is a journey and it’s better spent with support around you. Invite someone to join you on this journey to making your dreams come true and schedule time with them. To kick it back to Marie Forleo, she shares that actually having a scheduled “Accountability appointment” leads to a 95% increase in achieving your goals!
Oftentimes one of the biggest obstacles to achieving our dreams is us. We get in our own way and sabotage our own success (sometimes without even knowing it). Finding support and cheerleaders to turn to that can help us stay focused and optimistic is absolutely essential to success.
Support Super Bonus: Every 3rd Thursday of the month at the Women’s Wellness Center we host a free You Matter Meet-Up. Join us at this monthly get together and plan to share about how you’re doing on your goals! Join us to set these goals at our first You Matter Meet-Up of 2020 – Rock Your Resolutions on Thursday, January 16. Register here! Bit.ly/jan16ymm
So there you have it, my Top Three Tips for Making Your Resolutions Actually Stick. Hopefully these give you some ideas for rocking those resolutions and making 2020 your year! If you are looking for some support, I’d love to lend an ear. Reach Allison directly at firstname.lastname@example.org or contact the Women’s Wellness Center at email@example.com.