The Importance of Being Honest

Can I get real with you all? Sometimes life is overwhelming. 

Don’t get me wrong, I feel blessed to be busy, because it means I am needed and I am contributing to the world. But sometimes we just have hard days, or weeks, or periods of time where the busy-ness gets to be too much and we feel like things are spinning out of control. In these periods of time, I believe it is important to be authentic and remember that we are all just humans trying our best. Generally if you approach a situation with honesty about what you are going through, others will be receptive. 

I feel especially blessed to be a part of my community and cherish my patients at The Specific, my students at Evolve Training Center, and everyone who walks through my door at the Women’s Wellness Center. The kindness and love I receive from this community is the reason I do this everyday and keep pressing onward when the going gets tough. 

Since I am certain I am not the only one who deals with overwhelm from time-to-time I wanted to share a few of my favorite tips for getting through it. 

  1. Remind myself that I am human, just like everyone I interact with. We are all trying to do our best. 
  2. Stop and take at least 3 full-body breaths to slow my heart rate down and activate my parasympathetic nervous system. 
  3. Use some calming essential oil — I rub a few drops of Frankincense or Lavender on the back of my neck. 

Once I am back to feeling in control, I try to find some way to take action. This piece is critical. If we don’t take a step forward, we are allowing ourselves to stay trapped in the dread. Without a plan, the overwhelm may very well come back. I like to imagine my zoomed-out to-do list. I try to write down all the tasks I can think of in the various areas of my life (yes, this takes a bit!) and then I am able to view my to-do list as a finite thing. And I can take that list and prioritize it, assign deadlines, and schedule when I will complete tasks. This keeps me on track and focused on work while I am working. I don’t have to waste time figuring out what to do, because I have a clear list of tasks to accomplish.  

At the end of the day, I think the most important thing is to try your best and be honest with what you can and cannot do. Don’t expect yourself to do everything, and don’t expect to get it perfect 100% of the time. Be honest with yourself and others and listen to your needs. If the thought of taking on a new project fills you with dread, talk to your boss about it. If you forgot something or missed a deadline, don’t sweep it under the rug. Embrace authenticity in everything you do and hopefully your days of feeling overwhelmed will soon be passed.